Endometriosis affects one in ten menstruated women, and its symptoms are varied. It can have a very important impact on the daily lives of people who suffer from it, especially on a intimate level, resulting in strong pain during intercourse. Can we flourish sexually when you suffer from endometriosis, how to make male sex toy at home, VIVA AWA?
We don't really know the cause of endometriosis, and it’s only a short time since we’re talking about it. It is a complex chronic disease whose diagnosis is often very long, and can take between 5 and 7 years on average. During this period, the disease often progresses, which makes it more difficult to treat later. This late diagnosis also means that many women are discouraged at the idea of seeking help, despite the pain they undergo.
We speak of endometriosis when fragments of the endometrial tissue (the uterine mucosa) develop in other places than in the uterine cavity (the central part of the uterus). It is a hormone-dependent disease, whose symptoms vary depending on the period of the menstrual cycle in which the person is located.
Superficial endometriosis, which affects the peritoneum (the membrane which covers the abdominal cavity);
Ovarian endometriosis, which leads to the formation of ovarian cysts; Deep endometriosis, which is characterized by lesions which infiltrate more than 5 mm from the surface of the peritoneum. Many organs can be affected, such as the ovaries, the vagina, the intestine, the bladder ... Sometimes they are even organs located outside the pelvis that are affected. It is important to note that the type of endometriosis does not determine the intensity of the pains felt by the sick person. It is not because endometriosis is called superficial that it is not painful.
The endometrial tissue bleeds at the time of the rules, under the influence of hormones, which generally causes more intense pain. This pain felt, called dysmenorrhea, is the main symptom of around 70 % of endometriosis cases.
Endometriosis has many other symptoms, such as pelvic and lumbar pain, urinary disorders, infertility and dyspareunia (pain related to sex). It is on this last symptom that we are going to dwell today.
Endometriosis can have a significant impact on the sexuality of people who suffer from it, as well as that of their spouses. One of the solutions proposed by doctors to try to reduce endometriosis pain is very often hormonal treatment, such as the contraceptive pill. However, as we know, the pill is not without side effects, such as a drop in libido and excitation disorders, which can cause vaginal drought.
However, the pill is not the only responsible. The intimate pains that endometriosis is intensified during sexual intercourse, which can naturally create a blockage in sick people. The pains felt during and after intercourse is described as dyspareunia. Chronic pain during the act is called deep dyspareunia. This is the third most common symptom in people with endometriosis.
The lesions, adhesions and cysts present in the pelvic region of certain people with endometriosis can be struck by the penis during sex, which is obviously very painful. This deep dyspareunia, directly linked to the sexual act, can also cause intro actions, that is to say pain at the entrance to the vagina, at the level of the external genitals. This dyspareunia is very often a direct reflex of anticipation of pain. It is a vicious circle: sexual intercourse hurts so we apprehend, and this apprehension does that it is even worse, which increases even more apprehension ...
However, even in people who do not suffer from pain during the penetration act, endometriosis can manifest itself during and after orgasm.
Indeed, muscle spasms created by orgasm can shoot the lesions and memberships present, and cause very strong pain.
How can we want to make love when you know that even orgasm, a highlight of sexual pleasure, often mentioned as supreme well-being, inflict so much pain?
For people with a partner, it is not always easy to communicate and talk about these things. And yet, endometriosis impacts as much the person who suffers from it as his partner.
For people without regular partner, the disease can cause a fear of meeting people and having to explain its reluctance to the penetration reports, even intimacy in general. It actually seems that many people with endometriosis simply give up having a sex life.
Here are some tips for working to minimize pain and optimize pleasure during intercourse.
Even if it is not always easy, the most important (and you will never be repeated enough), is to communicate with your partner. A sexual intercourse is happening for two (or more!), So do not suffer in silence. Whether you are with a long-standing partner or with someone you have just met, tell her about your endometriosis and how she affects you.
Whether you are in pain during the reports or you don't have sexual desire, it is neither your fault, nor his own. The disease is the sole responsible.
Pain may increase according to the period of your menstrual cycle. For many women, it seems that the least painful period to have sex is just after the period. Conversely, the rules (and the pains they already lead to them alone) will do that: one, you will not want to be touched at this time, and two, the pain will only be 'exacerbated.
Experience (gently) in order to define the period of your cycle which is most suited to sexual activity for you. It can be tedious, but will be worth it. Do not hesitate to use a cycle tracking application to keep an eye on your cycle, take notes and know where you are.
It is also important to observe the way sexual intercourse is defined. The pain that is associated with sexual intercourse is generally linked to penetration. However, penetration is not an end in itself, and there are many other ways of making love.
Favor, for example, external stimulation by targeting the clitoris. Did you know that most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm? So do not neglect its importance and its ability to satisfy you sexually.
Another option can be mutual masturbation (practice during which the two partners masturbate one the other) or even oral sex. Be careful, however, if you suffer from post-organic pain, because an orgasm by clitoral stimulation can do just as bad as an orgasm after a vaginal penetration ratio.
In this case, focus on massages, caresses and other acts that are sometimes called "preliminary". The feeling of intimacy and the pleasure they provide will be just as present as in a sexual intercourse in the classic sense of the term.
If you want to try to enjoy a penetration ratio, try to find a position where the penetration angle means that the penis does not strike on your endometriosic lesions. It will be, for example, the positions where the penetration depth is minimal, such as the position of the spoon. Also opt for positions where you are above, because you can control the depth and the penetration ryhtme with easier and keep control.
Some people suffering from endometriosis also opt for the "slow sex", that is to say slow relationships, where penetration is less intense.
Whatever you decide, don't forget to lubricate as much as possible, especially if you suffer from vaginal drought.
To ease pain on the pelvic floor, experts also recommend working to keep your body's mobility. Doing yoga, pilates or stretching can help relax the perineum and thus soften the adhesions present at the pelvic floor.
Selection of sex toys and accessories
There are many clitoridian sex toys that can be very pleasant if you suffer from endometriosis and want to avoid vaginal penetration.
Vibromasseurs Bullet as the Magic Bullet precisely target the clitoris and, despite their small size, can bring you a lot of pleasure. These mini vibrators will also seduce you with their low price (even if some more powerful models will obviously be more expensive).
When it comes to clitoral stimulation, one cannot help mentioning the stimulators with sucking effect, which stimulate the clitoris using pulsating waves, without going directly into contact. If you are starting out in this area, opt for the VIVA AWA X ROMP Switch. If you are looking for a more powerful sex toy, with more vibration functions, we recommend the Pro40, born from a collaboration between VIVA AWA and Womanizer.
Finally, we cannot speak of external stimulation without speaking of a magic wand vibrator. These vibrating masseurs are entirely intended for external stimulation. They can be used on the clitoris, but not only! They are designed to massage you all over the body. These versatile vibrators make super sex toys for couple and suit women and men, notably having a lot of effect on the perineum. To start, choose the small luxury magic wand vibrator, by VIVA AWA.
For those who want vaginal penetration, there are many vibrators and dildoles thinner than normal, and which will be less painful in insertion.
Opt for example for the VIVA AWA slimline suction cup dildo. Its fine and smooth member 13 cm long will offer you an internal massage very gently.
On the vibro side, a vibrator for point G like the G-Slim will be finesse in your vagina to precisely target your G-spot.
Do you want both vaginal and clitoral stimulation? Rabbit vibrators will seduce you. A fine rabbit like this pretty number of the Happy Rabbit brand will satisfy your thirst for vaginal penetration while stimulating your clitoris with precision.
Besides, if you are looking for a dildo, we strongly advise you to choose a glass model. Indeed, glass sex toys can be cooled, and freshness can relieve the sore pelvis.
Several accessories are at your disposal to help you during your penetration reports, if you suffer from dyspareunia.
The penis shock absorbers, by VIVA AWA Health, are quilted rings whose aim is to reduce the depth of penetration during intercourse. They are expandable and can therefore suit all penis sizes. They can be used separately or together, and will make your penetration ratio much more comfortable.
To help control the penetration angle, many sexual position cushions are available. A cushion like the Liberator Wedge will enhance your hips, which can help reduce pain during penetration relations and make the sexual act more pleasant.
Whatever you choose, a large bottle of lubricant will be essential. In terms of lubricant, we generally recommend the use of a water -based lubricant, because these lubricants are compatible with all sex toys and all condoms. Enjoy, by VIVA AWA, is a safe bet. Note all the same that the water -based lubricants dry fairly quickly and that it is therefore necessary to reapplicate it often. Silicone lubricants last longer but beware, they are not compatible with sex toys and silicone condoms.
There are so many shapes of endometriosis that it is unfortunately impossible to find a solution that will suit everyone.
The most important thing is to listen to your body, to do only what makes you feel good and not to put you pressure from doing anything. Do not hesitate to consult a professional, like a sexotherapist, who will be able to give you suitable advice according to your personal situation.
There are also many forums and other online support platforms, where you can chat with other patients who live or have experienced experiences similar to yours.
Even if this disease is still little known, things are moving forward!
The Foundation for Research on Endometriosis (FRE) was created in January 2021 to set up a structure dedicated to support for research on the disease. In January 2022, Emmanuel Macron made endometriosis a public health issue and announced a strategy to combat disease.
Finally, in February 2022, a French start-up announced the development of a saliva test to diagnose endometriosis. If that turns out to be conclusive, this test will make it possible to detect the disease quickly and take care of it earlier to stop its evolution.